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Advice for a Quaintrelle 21st

Hi Lovelies,

I am having my 21st birthday party next year in April (I am in New Zealand simply for reference) and I was wondering whether anyone would have advice for how to organise it. My family isn't the most receptive to interesting styles or ideas, and so while I want to have everyone dressed in the style, I don't know whether they will. That goes for my friends too - a lot of them will probably still turn up in slinky (and not to be rude about my friends, but slutty) dresses and things. Any ideas on what to do about that? My sister, bless her, said that I should just state on the invite that if they don't follow dress code that they will be turned away. And whilst that idea has certain benefits, I don't want to upset anyone by doing it. The idea that I had is to say that women need to dress in formal-wear, in pastel shades (I LOVE pastels at the moment), because that way they have some flexibility. (For say, my grandmother, because I don't think she would really be into dressing completely in the style.  I will definitely be including pictures and a link to Quaintrelle Style, so they can get an appreciation for the ideas and values first!
Also, what should I state is the dress-code for my male guests? I was thinking that I would just say suits and tophats and canes etc, for ease of explanation, but is there anything better?
I have decided upon some of the foods I want too - Apricot gelato and Strawberry Gelato, and Apricot and Strawberry macaroons, and roulade in the same flavours. Does anyone have any good ideas for food that isn't desert?

Any advice at all would be wonderful!

I am back off to search for venues - apparently there aren't any traditional dance halls where I am...

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eva5nyan
Dec. 13th, 2010 10:07 am (UTC)
what a wonderful party!
happy birthday! it seems you have an elaborate and elegant party underway, which sounds simply splendid; i certainly wish you the best.

just a suggestion, but perhaps you should indicate to guests that this is a "victorian costume party," featuring "frilly formal attire," or something of that nature. the idea of having a themed costume party is much easier for people to contend with, and seems a lot more fun and festive as opposed to stating "rules" or "dress codes." even though this may not be a costume party to you or i, it seems like most of your guests may not be donning these outfits twice. perhaps provide some examples, such as pastel formal wear, suits, hats, gloves, etc. i think your guests will take it from there and have fun making their "costume."

i have never been to new zealand, but depending on your budget, hosting the event at a posh hotel or museum may provide the right atmosphere.

best of luck to you!^^
melody_rossiter
Dec. 13th, 2010 11:27 am (UTC)
A dress code for your male guests could be- come in pinstripes and heraldry? neither of those is difficult to find, and it will always look somewhat fancy.

yaoikitten
Dec. 13th, 2010 01:54 pm (UTC)
Whatever you do keep it simple, people will be turned off from your party if you have "rules" and "dress code." I love the above poster's costume idea, that is something people can understand and mold it to their own style.
melody_rossiter
Dec. 13th, 2010 09:13 pm (UTC)
Totally. Make it a suggestion. Every time I have tried to force specific costume ideas, 3 people show up.

When I just say, "Fancy Dress Required", everyone shows up, looking awesome.

Even though I am into lolita, most of my friends are absolutely *not*. That doesn't mean that I don't match with them when we are all 'fancy'.

I think the most important part is setting a mood- you wont look out of place in head to toe ott lolita if your friends are ott in their own ways.
sharkcowsheep
Dec. 13th, 2010 05:46 pm (UTC)
Oh my, inviting someone and then turning them away when they show up because they're not dressed to one's taste? Yikes. No, do not do that. I venture to say that one should never do that.

I'd also like to encourage you to broaden the description to "frilly formal" rather than insisting on pastels. Some people simply do not wear them or look good in them--I should know. ;) Would a slit sheath dress in baby pink be preferable to a poofy-petticoated ensemble in forest green?

As for food, bless those little cucumber sandwiches; they're pastel AND non-staining. Perhaps those pre-made tiny quiches one can buy frozen?
melody_rossiter
Dec. 13th, 2010 09:14 pm (UTC)
I know, I immediately thought of the gothic lolitas, who would wear black and red and burgundy and navy... it would be kind of mean to exclude them.
gwenyvere4
Dec. 13th, 2010 09:01 pm (UTC)
Design your invitations to reflect the dress code, complete with vintage illustrations of the fashions you're going for. Then, as someone mentioned above, bill it as a costume party. : )
evel_epic216
Dec. 14th, 2010 01:04 am (UTC)
Thank you to everyone for your wonderful ideas.
I actually have had a slight change of idea, when I was chatting to my mother (who, even though I never mentioned that I was planning it, has found me a caterer, bless her) But she asked whether we could have it at her house, so that changed the theme a little - they have a really big dining room/livingroom, which is huge once you take the furniture out, so I decided to change the theme to.... a Quaintrelle cocktail party. Pretty cocktail dresses and nice suits everywhere, and that way it is the best of both worlds for everyone - I get the pretty dresses and suits I want, and everyone else doesn't have to fret too much about costumes :) My friends aren't all that good wih costumes heh. I will put on the invites that people are welcome to try the quaintrelle style and have links for them to see, because I have a couple of friends who would probably want to give it a go.
And, I have decided on invites too - I am going to make a silhouette of myself, and have it mounted on pretty paper inside a 'frame' on white cards. Nice and simple!

And oh yes! Cucumber sandwiches, they are a definite must. Hopefully I will be going to see my parents within a week or two to see what ideas they have and such, and see what this caterer can do!
yummy_gherkin
Dec. 20th, 2010 04:05 am (UTC)
not related
hey just wondering if you are a member on the nz loli community? if you like you could try posting this there and you might be about to get specific help like places you can buy things etc. here is the link http://community.livejournal.com/nz_lolita hope that helps =)
evel_epic216
Dec. 20th, 2010 04:07 am (UTC)
Re: not related
Hey!

Thanks for the link - it looks really useful!
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